I saw the incomparable Emma Murray speak at a conference yesterday. For me, this alone presents an unmissable fanboy moment as Emma is the high-performance mindset coach for the Richmond Football Club … my beloved team.
Emma is seen by many as being a “secret weapon” in their recent run of premiership successes.
Emma spoke to how we can produce our “A-Game” more often by remembering our strengths and taking action, almost of any kind, within those strengths.
But we all have a B-Game too. We play our B-Game when we’re distracted by negativity, problems and uncontrollables.
The great part of the A-Game is that it’s easier. It’s the B-Game that leads to heaviness, exhaustion and burnout. But when we’re in our groove doing something like building a connection, sharing a story or lighting up a student/colleague/parent we feel lighter and more joyful.
The A-Game is not only close to effortless, it’s also better for us and more productive.
Emma also points out that our cave-dwelling days, where we genuinely needed to be on threat alert constantly to survive, is behind the urge to go B-Game. We’ve been hardwired across the millenia to seek risks and problems.
And so, it isn’t merely about stopping your negative thoughts about school or a student or a day and “thinking positively” that helps. Nor is it helpful to beat yourself up for lapsong.
It’s better to just notice that B-Game and accept it with a “You know what, it’s ok to be a bit stressed considering what’s going on at the moment”.
And then just do something A-Game-ish.
Oh … and thanks for the premierships, Emma.
Keep fighting that good fight,
PS. The Inner Circle is now open for 2023 registrations. Want me to personally mentor you on leading your school into a restorative future. You don’t have long to get involved!
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